Find What Really Matters to You
Step 1: Value Discovery
Read through the list below and circle or highlight up to 10 values that resonate with you most in relationships (romantic or otherwise).
Sample Values List:
- Trust
- Honesty
- Communication
- Loyalty
- Respect
- Humor
- Ambition
- Kindness
- Compassion
- Growth
- Independence
- Adventure
- Family
- Financial Stability
- Emotional Safety
- Fun
- Spirituality
- Passion
- Security
- Equality
- Patience
- Open-mindedness
- Creativity
- Balance
- Generosity
- Support
Don’t see one that fits? Add your own below:
Step 2: Narrow It Down
From your top 10, choose your top 5 most essential relationship values. These are your non-negotiables—the core ingredients that help you feel loved, seen, and safe in a relationship.
Top 5 Core Values:
Step 3: Reflect
Answer the following prompts:
- Why are these values important to you?
- How do these values show up in your current or past relationships?
- Are you living by these values in your relationships? If not, what’s missing?
Step 4: Talk About It (Optional for Couples)
If you’re in a relationship or dating someone, compare your values and discuss:
- Where do you align?
- Are there any differences that could be potential growth areas?
- How can you support each other in living these values?
💡 Pro Tip:
Values can evolve over time. Revisit this worksheet every year—or after big life changes—and check in with yourself or your partner.
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